Last year in Carolina Beach,NC, a restaurant put a ban on screaming children.  “Screaming Children Will NOT Be Tolerated!” read signs at the Olde Salty restaurant.  Brenda Armes, owner of the restaurant says the clearly stated message has been good for business. “It has brought in more customers than it has ever kept away,” she said. 

 

At McDain’s Restaurant, in Monroeville, Pennsylvania, as of July 16th, children under the age of 6 are banned from the establishment.   Mike Vuick, owner of the Pittsburgh area eatery said after receiving countless noise complaints from customers about crying kids at neighboring tables, he decided to institute the policy.

 

It is perfectly legal to ban children from these establishments although in both these instances, many locals are saying it discriminates against people with children and special needs kids as well.  So what is the issue?  Is our society becoming less and less tolerant of children or are parents not teaching manners?  I say it’s a little of both.

 

I do believe that our society seeks instant gratification and are more demanding that things be just the way we want it.  Think about it. How often do you get mad at traffic and/or red lights that slow you down?  How annoyed are you when you have to wait for a table at a restaurant or having to wait in long lines?   I’m not saying that we are all have a self-entitled attitude all the time, but that mindset is in our society today.

 

Now on the other side of the argument, I think parents should be doing more to teach manners.  No one wants to listen to a baby scream or a child throwing a tantrum while they’re out having dinner.  If you’re out in a public place and your child is misbehaving they deserve more than a simple “shhh”.  Now I’m not implying a spanking but if they act up, remove them from the situation.  That is how I was raised and I learned quickly that if I wanted to go to the store with mom that I had to behave while we were there.

 

Most people understand that babies can be unpredictable and easily upset and parents should anticipate that the trip, whatever it might be, may not go off as planned.  You may have to bring baby out to the car to calm them down before finishing shopping or pack up the meal to go.  In my opinion, that’s just part of being a parent.  Believe me, I understand that parents need a night out too but all parents should teach their children acceptable behavior in any place of business.

 

I have a 5 month old and admittedly get a little anxious when going out to public places.  It’s really up to her how each trip will go right now.  If she gets upset and I can’t soothe her, we go to the car until I can or leave.  When we are out to eat as a family, we anticipate that if she gets upset, one of us is prepared to take her outside until she’s calm.  It’s pretty simple, while some are more tolerant than others, if you don’t want to hear your child screaming then you can’t blame others for not wanting to either.

 

 

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